Hi there,
I would like to extend this discussion a bit. Its about the "Fear of Loss".
Almost every trader faces this situation once or more in his trading career. But there is need to come out of this phase and carry on but How?
A new trader do not have this kinda fear but he has another fear, the " Fear of Missing a Trade". So he takes positions in haste and sometimes make money but loses in multiples, later in a similar trade. After losing again and again he comes to a threshold where he suffers from the fear of loss.
The traders who have lost big money even in good setups, may be because of lousy psychological mistakes or the overall market sentiment, hesitate on pulling the trigger. THIS PROBLEM IS THERE EVEN WITH MANY EXPERIENCED TRADERS TOO. We suffer a big loss on one trade and then we kinda cool down for the whole month before we trade next month. There is nothing wrong in this unless we utilize the cool off period to learn from our mistakes rather than fuming and regretting. BUT if it is happening very often that we end up losing trades again and again and again, then there is definitely something wrong either with our strategy or psychology.
How to overcome this problem?
I would suggest to reduce position sizes. I know that's not possible in futures market when we trade with single lot. In that case paper trade could be a good option. It does not makes you any money but you won't lose money AND the best part is that you are learning now. Just follow the tenets of a good trade discussed in this post.
After some hiccups and improvements in you strategy, you will come at a point where you will be confident about your strategy. Now you will put it into practice.
For precautionary measures and to build confidence I would suggest to take as small positions as possible, that too only when risk is in 'your' limits. After being a consistent winner with this much position size, increase it to next level and keep on gradually increasing till you reach a threshold where you will feel uncomfortable taking that heavy position. Stop there and trade with your previous position size till you are more confident.
Trust me guys this simple trick has a huge psychological impact on our trading style. Try this and be a profitable trader.